Reforming Marriage by Douglas Wilson...... short review

Reforming Marriage by Douglas Wilson lays the problems in marriage at the feet of the man.  He makes the case that when a man refuses to lead spiritually he is like one who stands in the middle of his own garden and watches the weeds grow, wondering why the fruit is rotten.

This is a good book for anyone considering marriage, getting married or already married.

A few quotes:

Marriage problems are overwhelmingly problems with sin -- lack of conformity to the Word of God in thoughts, words, and actions.

Maturity in the Lord is a prerequisite to maturity in marriage.

...countless marriages have not really been spiritually consummated... a marriage cannot be spiritually consummated if the husband acts the part of a spiritual eunuch...

In 1937 my grandparents, David and Helen, were married. This is their "wedding" picture outside the cafe that they both worked in at the time.

The couple shown above were from broken homes and

lived apart from their siblings for part of their childhood.

David was actually "farmed" out during his high school years

for room and board.

Determined not to let the same thing happen to their own children,

they pledged to hold fast to their vows before God and man,

and they did.

This is the legacy passed down to me.

Now it is my turn to pass the legacy to my own children.

“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;

she shall be called Woman,

because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother

and hold fast to his wife,

and they shall become one flesh.(Genesis 2:23-24)